No two clients are alike, but a pattern does show up in my practice. The majority of the people I work with are between 18 and 32, and most are cis men confronting some threshold — the end of college, the shock of the workforce, the weight of new fatherhood. Many arrive angry and disillusioned, feeling “stuck” and convinced they’re alone with their problems. And most are skeptical that therapy can do much about any of it.
That skepticism doesn’t disqualify anyone. In fact, it’s often the most honest place to start.
What makes a poor fit
- A need for a quick fix. I don’t hand out shortcuts, and the work I do takes time. If what you want is a fast patch, you’ll likely be frustrated by my pace.
- Scheduling that won’t hold. The work depends on showing up with some regularity. If your life can’t make room for a standing time, the rhythm never builds.
- A desire for a different modality. I work a particular way (see How I Work). If you’re looking for something I don’t offer, I’d rather point you toward it than pretend to be the right fit.
What makes a good fit
- Willingness. Not certainty, not optimism — just a readiness to sit in the room and try.
- Desire and interest. Some genuine curiosity about your own life and what might change in it. That’s enough to begin.